Who has time to workout or cook? Seriously. There are so many other things we need to be doing right now. I am not in good enough shape to hit the gym. Did you see her? She must workout all the time and never eat. Work has become my real ball and chain. The kids are driving me crazy and I need this right now! That guy has to be using some serious supplements. I would, but I don’t have the time. Any of these sound familiar? I have been there and done that, so no judging here.
Rewind to this morning. You looked in the mirror, as you get ready for your long day ahead. You try to find something to wear that you feel good in. Suddenly you find yourself surrounded by piles of scattered clothes you recently folded and put away. In a heat of desperation you grab the outfit you feel the least awful in and go. If this is the start of your day, how will the rest go?
Whether you realize it or not, you are important. How you see yourself affects every aspect of your life. Your relationships with others, how you treat others, work performance, eating habits, motivation to get up, and much more are influenced by self image. I am not telling you anything you don’t already know on this blog. I share ways to enjoy life, stay motivated, and tools to help you get there. The formula is the same. Everyone knows that if you are serious about loosing weight there is only one basic way. Eat right and exercise. So why don’t we do it? Our society tells us to focus on ourselves and make ourselves happy with overindulgence. These things are truly empty. We know it, but we buy into it anyhow. If they weren’t empty, we would not be in such a state.
The true way to be fulfilled in life is to take care of yourself, so that you are able to help others. You have to first love yourself. Not in a selfish, overindulging way, but in a well-cared for kind of way. Know who you are. List the positive attributes that you have, accomplishments, or unique things that make you who you are. Be confident in the way you were made and who you can become. If you can’t think of anything, realize that who you are now doesn’t have to be who you are tomorrow. The change starts today and the change starts with you! Sometimes an honest friend can help you see attributes you cannot. Ask him/her.
So many times our jobs, media, society, and sometimes even friends and family can make us feel bad for taking real care of ourselves. The pressure to be the perfect parent, the ultimate guy’s guy, the image on the magazine, and sometimes the chameleon push us away from caring for ourselves truly. It is easier to find fault in others than it is to praise their efforts genuinely. I have some bad news for you. You are not perfect. You are never going to be. People might find out you have flaws. It really is okay though. Your job is to stop comparing yourself to everyone else. Your job is not to be as glamorous as the hottest celebrity, to cook like Emeril, to have your children in all advanced classes at a specialty school, or even fade into the crowd you surround yourself with. Your job is to be the best YOU that you can be and to be there for others the best you can.
Think of yourself as a work in progress. I don’t care how fit anyone is, or how cleanly they eat. Everyone has a place in their lives they can improve. The trick is to realize that you are worth the effort. Your life is a gift and you have one chance to make the most of it. You can spend your time making excuses or start on a better road today. You can be confident in yourself, flaws and all, knowing that you are at least choosing to make a change. You can know that when you take reasonable care of yourself, by exercising, eating right, and pausing a few minutes to just breathe, you will be the best you possible. That means the people around you will get the best you possible. Once you are comfortable with yourself, you can give more because you require less empty stuff that wastes your time and resources. Think quality not quantity. I hope you learn to love yourself, because you are truly worth it. That is why I have endeavored to tell you.